Fear of failure is often given as the reason for not doing what we want to do. But what is it really about?
My own theory is that we fear failure because we already feel a failure, but that feeling has been long since denied and suppressed. The child who was told they were a failure, started to show that they were not, albeit aware that they felt that they were.
As time went on, this pretense became the default, and after hiding our “feeling of failure” from others, we hid it very well from ourselves.
This could be managed, were it not for us drawing to ourselves situations which threaten to remind ourselves of our “hidden secret”.
So we get angry, we get aggressive, and we defend without knowing why we do.
All the time, our hidden sense of failure sits in the dark watching and waiting. Waiting for a chink of light, a chink of recognition, a moment of acknowledgement, a beautiful second’s consideration.
